![]() ![]() Top Halloween Mighty Girl Books & Films.2013 Mighty Girl Books: A Year in Review.2014 Mighty Girl Books: A Year in Review.2015 Mighty Girl Books: A Year in Review.2016 Mighty Girl Books: A Year in Review.2017 Mighty Girl Books: A Year in Review.2018 Mighty Girl Books: A Year in Review.Top Environmental Movies featuring Mighty Girls.Travel Toys, Games, & Gear for Mighty Girls.Top Mighty Girl Books on Civil Rights History.Top Asian Pacific American Mighty Girl Books.Top Latino / Hispanic American Mighty Girl Books.Top Mighty Girl Books & Films on Women's History.Top Books on Bullying Prevention for Mighty Girls.The Ultimate Guide to the Independent Princess.Top Children's Books on the Environment.Top Graphic Novels Starring Mighty Girls.A Mighty Girl's 2021 Holiday Gift Guide.Top Read Aloud Books Starring Mighty Girls.A Mighty Girl's Empowering Easter Gifts Collection.Taken from Ending Sibling Rivalry by Sarah Hamaker (C) 2014 by Sarah Hamaker, Used by permission of Publisher. However, every once in a while, a small reward for exceptional waiting behavior is okay. Otherwise, a child won’t be able to wait without the promise-and deliverance-of a reward. For example, a child should wait her turn because it’s the right thing to do, not because she’ll get a lollipop if she does. ![]() Don’t give constant positive reinforcement for every compliance or good job of waiting. We want the child’s heart to be engaged in the waiting too. Self-control is more about a child’s inner life than about her outer conformance. These types of things will help the child’s self-control muscle grow. Limiting the number of presents at holidays and birthdays Visiting stores without buying anything for the children Some ways to help children learn to wait include: Don’t let them have their way just to gain quietness. Self-discipline can be taught by not giving in immediately to a child’s request. That has helped the child regain control and has headed off potential quarrels with siblings.ĭelay gratification. In our family, there have been times when a child has needed a secret word like “puppy” that we’ll say when that child begins to lose her cool. “We had our kids sit on the steps until they got themselves under control,” said Christina Tarabochia of Tigard, Oregon. Having an adult say a catchphrase when things heat up Putting your head down on a desk, if at school Removing yourself to settle down away from others Good ways to stretch that self-control muscle include: When kids lose self-control, it’s often manifested with hitting, kicking, and screaming. Revisit the issue later to show what progress you’ve made or what relapses you’ve suffered, and how you’re continuing to press forward. Ask for prayer as you work through this loss of self-control. Tell how you apologized and what steps you’re taking to avoid future blowups, such as not scheduling meetings right before lunch because being hungry makes you irritable. For example, you could talk at dinner about how you lost your temper at work. Share some of your “down” moments with your kids. All of us stumble in the area of self-control at one time or another. It can be difficult to teach self-mastery to our children if we don’t embody it ourselves. Here are some ways parents can guide their children’s development of self-control. It does take practice and perseverance to strengthen our self-control muscle. They are not a leaf to be blown about in the wind-they have the ability to exercise control. It seems obvious, but children do need to be told that they can control their reactions to events, people, circumstances, etc. We must remind our kids that they are masters of themselves. It’s no mistake that self-control, or the more old-fashioned word longsuffering, is included in the fruit of the Spirit: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control against such things there is no law” ( Galatians 5:22-23). Exercising self-control in the midst of extreme provocation is essential to resolving conflict in a way that’s fruitful for all parties involved. Maintaining self-control is an important component of conflict resolution. In fact, the worse the reality TV stars and sports figures act, the better for ratings. At sporting events, athletes throw loud and obnoxious temper tantrums when a call or game doesn’t go their way. Television reality programs show people behaving badly with little self-control of their emotions, actions, or words. Discipline of self isn’t on display in the public’s eye as it once was. In addition, the expectation of instant gratification has pushed the virtue of self-control to the back burner. The benefits of self-discipline, while timeless in nature, have fallen out of favor in today’s ultra-busy, ultra-competitive environment.
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